Friday, January 29, 2016

Seriously... Who Cares?

   It's been an exhausting week!  I think most of this week, however, has been me trying not to have a bad attitude about other people's Bad Attitudes, lol.  It's amazing some of the things that can alter your mindset.  I try not to them get to me; try to be like, Seriously? Who Cares??? But that's not me. I'm working on it! 

Here's what's happening:

Internet... What Would We Do Without it?



    It's crazy how excited I was in 2004 to have a Satellite Laptop... Now, it's all a hoax, lol.  In 2004, there wasn't such a huge cache on "Data plans"-- Either you had it, or you didn't... and MOST people didn't secure it.  Now, everyone has their Wi-Fi password protected, so it doesn't matter if you have a Satellite Device.  It's so funny how fast we move!

Kanye vs. Wiz Khalifa



      Seriously? Who cares?  I will never understand why celebrities and semi-celebrities will make far more than doctors, teachers, and social workers... They're whole situation is messy, messy, messy and it's about time people stopped caring so much about the Kardashians & their minions...  It's amazing how many articles I see about them in a day-- yet Almost ALL the comments are begging for the media to stop saturating our social networks and news feeds with anything Kardashian related... But over & over again, here we are... The Kardashians, Kanye & affliates are the folks we love to hate, apparently...

Just when I thought Dove Couldn't Get Any Better... 


   Can I just say... these are amazing.  I don't usually buy a lot of candy (especially not in large quantities) but I LOVE Dove Chocolates... I bought this Red Velvet Swirl, by mistake.  Believe me- if I knew it was Red Velvet, I would've passed... But this... THIS is amazing.  They tasted like delicious caramel and cream!  Definitely try some!

To Love Culture is to RESPECT Culture.... 


    I was watching PBS, and caught part of this show the Peregrine Dame with Rachel Parsons.  The show was interesting. Rachel travels through different countries and does video documentary of her experiences.  When I tuned into the show, Parsons was enjoying the nightlife of South Africa.  She sat in on a Rastafarian drum circle at a local night club.  She had to be asked several times not to film.  In my opinion, Parsons broke one of the cardinal rules about culture-- you must respect the wishes of other cultures when they allow you to partake in their customs and traditions. I think, in general, other cultures are gracious when it's obvious that you're a foreigner, but when they ask you not to do something in respect for their culture, it's important not to be irreverent.  I was disgusted that Parsons had to be asked 3 times not to film the drum circle.  She was free to film private interviews, but the leaders of the drum circle asked not to be filmed.  Parsons goes to the restroom to film her reaction, and basically says, "They don't want to be filmed because there is a huge cloud of marijuana smoke hovering over the drum circle"-- so basically accusing them of not wanting to be filmed due to their drug activity.  That may be the truth- but she still shouldn't have had to been asked 3 times not to film-- then when emerged from the restroom, once again, she tried to film. She filmed a little bit longer before someone else asked her, once again, to stop filming.  This type of arrogance and disregard is one of the reason why so many other countries don't like Americans.  At times, [some] Americans have this entitled & unflattering ability to think that everyone else needs to conform to our standards, wishes, customs, and whims.  I have the good fortune to have been born into a family with a lot of cultural diversity, so I try to be as respectful as possible.  One of the musicians in the drum circle was explaining how the drumbeats were "messages" being sent between villages in older times. Although I was offended by Rachel Parsons' attitude towards those in the drum circle- she did have a very interesting documentary.  I think I still may try to check out more of her shows!


Channing Tatum Gave Me Life as Beyonce...


   The video Says it all!  He's quickly becoming one of my favorite performers.  I used to think, 'Oh, he's just another pretty face'... but Some of his parts (not particularly this one) have really shown some range.  I love his face when Beyonce comes out to Knight him... Or Queen him?  Not sure what it's called when Beyonce gives you props for impersonating her... I'll think on that...

Love This Song...


   I'm taking a chance on this video, because I'm pulling it from Youtube without watching it-- but I just LOVE this song!  It's cute and catchy- and a little bit of a different sound than a lot of the songs we have been hearing.  Another Favorite I love... (and I can't believe I'm saying this in real life)... is Justin Bieber's Love Yourself.  If you didn't know better, you would think that it was an encouraging message... but no... He's basically saying F*** You... and it's ok, lol.

Adele is my New Best Friend...


    I was listening to the radio one day, when I kept hearing about "Adele" on James Corden's Carpool Karaoke segment... After watching this 14minute segment, I have decided that Adele is someone I'd definitely want to be friends with! She's so cute & funny.  Maybe it's the stark contrast from her music or photoshoots promoting her latest album that has me thrown.  Usually shes' very mono... Monochromatic colors- simple... Plain. Serious... But seeing Adele just be "Adele Adkins" was definitely a new insight. After watching this hilarious segment & enjoying some of her jokes, I realized that Adele could easily be my new best friend!  I hope in future albums she gets to show more sides of herself.  I love her music, but she is beginning to be Taylor Swifted... People are starting to really relate to here solely because of her "break up" ballads, etc.  We all know that the best art comes from pain, but time to change it up, Adele! The jig is up! you're a fun girl!!

That ends this week's blog! 
Why?
 Because I'm done. :)

Have a great weekend! Take care! 

XO,
  Tiffani






















Friday, January 22, 2016

I'm Convinced... People Just Want to be Mad and Fight...

Hello Everyone!
   
    Welcome to another glimpse of what's been going on in my life this week/Month!! I know it may not be as exciting for you to read, as it is as imperative that I write, but hey- if you enjoy it as well, that's awesome!  This has been a rough week, but an interesting one, at that...

Here's What's Been Goin' On:

I'm Convinced... People Just Want to Be Mad and Fight... 


       I guess I'm feeling a little nostalgic, at the moment, in regards to my worldview.  I wish things were like they used to be, in the fact that if people wanted to see change, they'd be active participants in trying to be the change they desired, instead of just getting online and angrily fighting and offending people.  I'm not one to put my head in the sand and ignore things that I'm passionate about- but at the same time, in 2016 there is SO MUCH to be passionate about!  It's passion overload, I believe.  I feel like part of the problem is that [with social media & other online resources] people are almost "forced" to have opinions about EVERYTHING/ things where they ordinarily would have zero interest!!  It happens to the best of us, as well.  I even found myself chiming in on a post about the Oscars Boycott, and I don't give a flip about the Oscars, and wouldn't have watched them anyway... Of course, behind almost every issue are layers of issues.  and of course THAT is where all the arguments and opinions come into play. People make ignorant comments, and then before you know it, you're in a tirade over something some idiot said online that had nothing to do with the contents of the post.  People also don't stick to the topics at hand.  Instead of debating or voicing their opinion about [said topic] they call folks names, take personal shots at each other, and make grandiose generalized statements as if they were emphatic truth.  People make low blows about people's spelling and intelligence, just because they disagree with them.  And in 2016, you can get into fights with people and have your feelings hurt by a whole plethora of topics and causes.  On top of that- people don't always think before they type.  I mean- the post [usually] isn't going anywhere... why not take time to consider others' views?  Why not take time to get your point across without sounding like a one-dimensional moron?

    As I started to say- I'm not one to put my head in the sand- however now that everyone and every "thing" is so accessible, it's easy to get caught up in unnecessary drama.  I've also found that people don't know how to argue.  There is no "middle ground" around disagreeing with someone without being labeled some kind of blanketed bigoted slur. Rarely is there any credit given to points that you may have in common, as well.  It doesn't matter if you're talking about politics, race, religion, sexual preference, marital status, pop culture, or what Starbucks puts on their cups during the Holiday Season-- people are so ready to quickly disrespect another person. There is no shortage of Internet Courage online.  And if you've found a person who is willing to spar with you, inevitably someone will give up and say "Well, we'll just have to agree to disagree..." That may be true, in every instance... but the end result is that there is not very much resolution or change to the actual cause.

     To add to the tensions, are the droves of band-wagoners who just repeat what others have said.  The thing about our society, today, is that all of these "topics" are stirred up all at once.  If you're online, you can't get away from media outlet after media outlet posting about this or that.  We also love to be offended without giving consideration to what others (who feel differently) may be going through. I love social media. I love how quickly news travels and the entertainment value... But at what cost? Quickly, people are becoming more basic and one-dimensional than ever.  You can't have a textured existence without taking some blows [figuratively] for your opinions/position/ beliefs.  The easiest way to get along with people online, is not to have any integrity, unique opinions, or morals, and to just "agree" with everyone.  In order for that to happen, you have to learn these entitled, cliched, vanilla responses that basically tell people that they don't have to be accountable for anything, ever... People think that we're becoming a regressive society, because there's a huge decline in values-- Yes-- that is true, but I also think one of the catalysts of this, is that pre-internet, there were only a handful of things in which to be angry or passionate.  In that time of our lives, News & Media had us on a slow-drip IV of information.  Sure, things happen, but not all at once... NOW, the flood gates are open, and we're hit with millions of ideas at one time.  I miss the days when my head wasn't so crowded...

Just a thought.


I'm Crushing on.... Robbie Magasiva


   Robbie Magasiva is a Samoan actor from New Zealand, who I've recently had the pleasure of viewing on a new (to me) show on Netflix called Wentworth (more on Wentworth later).  Magasiva plays a correctional officer at a women's prison in Melbourne, Australia, who goes through a lot in order to find truth and purpose behind the murder of his wife Govenor Meg Jackson (Govenor = Warden in Australian Prison).  I've already seen seasons 1-3 (all there is-- season 4 coming soon!) and I really like his character.  Well, for one, he's hot!  He has these intricate tribal Samoan tattoos and (for lack of a better word) Swagger about him that I really dig.  On top of that, he has a likable personality.  He goes through a lot in the first 3 seasons (especially after the murder of his wife) and I love that his character shows range.  There are times that he's ultimately a jerk, times where he's sweet and compassionate, and times where you really feel empathetic towards him.  Overall "Officer Jackson" is the kind of Correctional Agent you want to be around... should you find yourself in the unfortunate predicament of being incarcerated...

I'm obsessed with... Wentworth!



     Did I shamelessly binge watch this show, just like I shameless binge-watch other shows on Netflix?  Absolutely.  If you love crime dramas and suspense, then you NEED to check out Wentworth!  Because it's human nature to compare shows that first air within the same decade, I'd like to give you my thoughts on Wentworth vs. Orange is the New Black.  I personally like to judge each piece of work on its own merit, but because I don't know all of you who are reading this blog, I hope comparing it to OITNB will be the easiest way to get my points across. Wentworth in it's own right is a hard-hitting drama about a woman (Bea Smith) who goes to prison for trying to kill her abusive husband.  It's gritty and daring, with both light and dark moments.  It does share the same flashback format as OITNB, where it shares about her life before she is locked up.  Many shocking things happen throughout the series that make you consider whether Bea Smith is just a true survivor or if she is a criminal who is evolving, after crossing lines she shouldn't have crossed... or both.  One thing I love about Wentworth, is that I like Bea Smith throughout all 3 seasons, flaws and all.  In OITNB, I eventually lose respect for Piper (as I quickly did in the book).  Bea Smith is a real badass.  She does not wallow in her pity or blame others for her poor choices.  She owns all her mistakes & decisions and is a leader from the start.  And although OITNB is not necessarily a "comedy" it is far more comical than Wentworth.  Wentworth is definitely more serious and dramatic. There is also a little more of a balance between learning about both the guards' lives and the prisoners.  So- if you love gritty, nailbiting suspense, check out Wentworth on Netflix!

Disclaimer:  I'm not responsible for your binge-watching... but if you'd like a tip, watch Wentworth in Subtitles!  They have thick Australian accents and use lots of slang. 

What I'm Loving... Cinnamon Bun Oreos


      I'm not one to buy a lot of sweets-- but my office is... So occasionally, someone will bring in something "new" to try.  If you've got a little wiggle room in your New Year's Diet (which we ALL should have some wiggle room, lol) you've GOT to try these!  The smartest thing to do, would be to do exactly what Jen in my office did... Buy them for your Office mates-- that way, you can try them without devouring the entire carton all at once.  They are super-delicious!  Cinnamon Bun Oreos have that perfect balance between creamy frosting & a warm spicy cinnamon!  Give them a try!


Well- that concludes the end of this blog! Stay tuned & comment when you wanna! Love you guys!

XO,
  Tiffani






 















Friday, January 8, 2016

Happy New Year!!! 2016"

   It's a new year! I can't believe it's already 2016!  I didn't really do much for New Year's Eve, this year. I cuddled up in bed with my dog and binge-watched American Horror Stories, lol. I'm suprised that I haven't written about my love for American Horror Stories-- but I digress... I'm going to be trying a sightly different format for my blogs, as well-- we'll see how that goes.  Here's what's been going on so far, this year! 


    First of all, can I just say that I'm not a fan of New Years... There's this daunting morose feeling that you're reminded of, at the end of each year.  Personally, the feeling is more of an "I am not where I thought I'd be, in my life..." type of feeling.  I'm filled with the anxiety of uncertainty. Obviously, God has full awareness and control over the things that happen in my life, but so many times I find myself wondering what the plan is or why is any of it [the things that happen in my life] relevant... It sucks even more when you feel like you're cut out of a certain cloth, but being forced into a different one.  It's like sewing a piece of parachute material onto a quilt... It all does the trick, but one of the squares just doesn't fit.  Nonetheless, there is some room for optimism, so I'm not going to negate the fact that 2016 could be full of new exciting experiences.  I just hope that this year, will be a great year.  I hope that this year, I will feel like I've made some kind of progress. So many times it just feels like Groundhog Day- and I'm tired of that feeling.

... On Great Movies


       This movie FAR surpassed my expectations on the funny meter!  I thought it would be funny, and at times it was a bit predictable- but I NEVER thought I'd be busting out laughing several times throughout the movie.  The lines in this movie are so clever and spot on-- one being, "I think we need a look that is not so much Forever 21, but more Suddenly 42..."     Basically- the plot of the film is about the two Ellis sisters who have to divvy up their belongings, and take what they want before their parents sell their childhood home.  They get there and unveil so much of their history.  One sister, (Poehler) realizes that she has had a very limited life, because she spent so much of it taking care of everyone else.  She's envious of her sister's (Fey) more colorful experiences, and the two decide to throw a  huge party to commemorate their days of youth.  Upon throwing the party- they realize that so many of their friends have fallen into the same " over 30yrs rut" and basically have skewed senses of what's "fun".  So- the girls campaign for their friends to let loose and really turn their party into a rager! So many funny things happen when their friends take the bait, and through the chaos, both women learn more about themselves.  Over the holidays, I was able to see a couple of movies, and one of the things I haven't felt in a long time was that "I've got to own that movie" feeling.  Well, those were probably the first words I said while leaving the theatre.  This movie is a must-see! 

...Just Tacky


    I'm more or less just venting about a situation that happened this past week.  I went to a local steakhouse to have dinner with a friend.  The food was great, the conversation was great, and the service was pretty good.  As I was leaving, and my friend and I parted ways- I noticed that my car wouldn't start.  I was pretty sure it was the battery- but with my car being a bit older, it could've been the alternator or starter, as well.  So, I asked around in the parking lot to see if anyone had jumper cables. No one did- so I went inside to ask if anyone had some.  My friend had some, came back, and was waiting outside- but she had a lot of things in her trunk, and would have to dig them out if no one else had any.  Well, the hostess and her brother (who happened to work there and whom was also our server) came out to try to help.  It was pretty cold, but they both still came out.

       Well, the first thing I realized was that her brother didn't know where the battery was.  He was saying, "Oh- I think it's on the other side... "  I was the one who had to show him where the battery was.  So, he hooked up the car (in an improper sequence) and after a few seconds, the jumper cables started to smoke.  My car still was not charged, either.  So they took them off, and shrugged it off, basically saying "It didn't work", and went inside.  So- I sat in my friends car debating on whether or not to call my insurance Roadside Assistance- and while I was on the phone calling them, the hostess comes back out and told me that her Jumper Cables were now burned out, and she would like $10 to help towards the cost of new cables.  I will give her credit that she was polite-- but I couldn't help to think how tacky it was that she did that.  For one- I wasn't the one to hook up the jumper cables.  It was her ill-equipped brother. I believe he put the clamps on backwards, which caused the smoking.  I know for sure that he put both clamps on the dead car then both clamps on the live car.  I'm not sure if that had anything to do with it-- but it seems feasible that if you don't put them on the way you're supposed to, you could cause damage.  I also thought I saw a spliced cord before they even put it on the car, but I wasn't close enough to tell.  I have no way of knowing if their jumper cables were damaged beforehand or how they knew they were damaged afterwards... It's not as if they tried to jump another car between the 10 mins they left me and the time she walked her behind out to ask me for money for the "replacement" of her jumper cables.

      Overall- I did pay the girl, because had I had cash on me, and had using her jumper cables worked, I would've tried to give her a few dollars.  But I don't feel responsible for her jumper cables, to be honest-- especially if I wasn't the one who hooked them up.  And it's funny that I was the one who hooked up my friends, and miraculously, we were able to get my car up and going (with the help of a passing gentleman who was able to knock some rust off of them, and get it going faster... By the way- he wasn't standing there with his hand out...).  I paid the girl, though, because in the heat of the moment, I said I would-- and at the end of the day, it would weigh on my conscience that she would think I screwed her over.  I don't want to owe anyone anything-- and chances are [with my luck] the moment I decided not to pay her would be the moment I keep seeing her or her brother, everywhere, lol.  

     I just feel like this was a no-win situation for me.  Had I not paid her, I would've felt like I screwed someone over (when I know I didn't) and now that I have paid her, I feel somewhat hustled.  But at least I gave sort of a compromise.  I did give her the money, but I also told her that it was her brother  who hooked up the cables the wrong way to my car, that caused her jumpers to burn out.  He owes her the rest of the money to replace her cables.  But at the end of the day, an argument could be made for both sides.  Had I never needed a jump, she wouldn't have burned out jumper cables... But had he put them on properly, she also wouldn't have burned out jumper cables. I know after today, I will be over it-- but I just hate when people do tacky things that I wouldn't think to do. SMH.  

What would you have done?  I put it to a poll in my office, and it's about split about whether folks would've given her the money, etc... I'm interested in your input! 
      
....on premature emotional Solicitation...


      I hate when people try to squeeze sentiments out of you.  I'm not the type of person to provide validation, at request.  I give plenty of validation, on my own, without a man begging me for it.  I met a guy before Christmas, and I'm not sure about him.  I asked him to contact me after the holidays, when I have more free- time.  I have agreed to go out with him on Saturday- but I'm not really looking forward to it.  For one, there has been at least 4 times where he's tried to get validation from me, prematurely. For instance, the day after I met him, he texted me, "Hey- how're you doing... Did you think about me?"--- Um, Fool, I don't know you.  What is there to think about??? They he asked again, in  a text message, last week.  Again- I don't know you... We haven't been out, yet... What is there to think about??? Also, he seems to want my time prematurely, as well.  He seemed to cop an attitude when I told him of the times I was free to hang out.  This fool had the nerve to tell me that, "He was under the impression that I would have no plans after the holidays..." Really??? You just thought you were going to swoop in and completely take over my personal life?  He acted like I "owed" him time.   I always have plans and I never implied that I wasn't going to be busy, and we don't have to go out if the times I can hang out don't work, you  know? After expressing that he thought I was a loser with no plans, he acted like he wasn't even reading my texts.  I was like, "I'm free Saturday afternoon & Sunday Evening".... and he replies with, "Don't you want to get to know me better?"  I'm sitting there baffled like, 'I thought that's what we were planning to do"--- He responded as if I said I wasn't going to try and fit him in...Smh.  These are the types of things that make me miss certain men in my life.  If I've quoted it once, I've quoted it a hundred times... "Once you've had it good, you can't go back to bs..."  It's the sad and unfortunate truth.  It's not that anyone wants to have BS-- but it's just sad that more men don't get it right without being absolute weirdos.

     So- I'm going out on the date to clear my conscience.  After the date, I can either keep up with our involvement, or let him know that I don't think we're compatible, and keep it moving.  I'm really not looking forward to it, but I am trying to keep an open mind.  Either way, at least I would've given him a real chance.

    I still remain optimistic about 2016, but it's gotten off to a weird start.  




XO,
   Tiffani