Friday, October 30, 2015

Just Another Week!

You asked for it! Here it is, friends!

Favorite Show:  The Last Man on Earth (on Hulu)

    So... I finally succumbed to subscribing to Hulu... I was so disappointed when FOX decided to let The Mindy Project go, but I was happy to know it was being picked up by Hulu... I chose to subscribe, because Hulu (that sly fox network) decided to only put the first episode of Season 4 online, for free.   So- I binge watched The Mindy Project, and kind of felt like "Meh..." Sure, there were some funny parts, but I guess now that its "On Hulu", I thought it would be funnier, somehow, now that I have to pay.  That's no fault of The Mindy Project, however... in my head, it just seems logical that if I'm now paying for a show I used to get for free, that it would be even better than before...

   I digress. After Binge-watching Mindy, I saw another show that has been advertised often after one of my other favorite shows (Bob's Burgers)... Kristen Schaal (who is the voice of "Louise" on Bob's Burgers) is the leading lady along with January Jones and Will Forte.  At first, I almost didn't watch, because I hate post-apocalyptic humor.  For one, being a Christian, I find that a lot of the talk of "The Apocalypse" have been nothing but attempts to discredit the Bible and what is predicted to come.  I feel like they think by "making it a big joke" or something that seems extremely futuristic and impossible, that people won't take it seriously-- when for some of us-- it is a very real belief.  This belief does not include Zombies or a "Virus" and if we are around when it happens, it's not going to be a funny or an "easy" type of thing... But all seriousness aside, I like Kristen Schaal, and decided to watch a few episodes to see what it was all about.  In this series, some "virus"  has wiped out mankind, and for 2yrs, a man named "Phil Miller", thinks he's the only man left on earth (Will Forte)... So he travels (and Loots) America, looking for any other sign of life.  He spray paints "Alive in Tuscon" on buildings & bill boards, in case others would like to join him (should there be "Others") out there.

   It turns out, there are "Others" and the first person he meets is a quirky lady named Carol Pilbasian (Kristen Schaal). Eventually, you realize that a lot of people are slowly coming out of the woodwork (thanks to Phil's signs) and they start to form a small community.  Aside from the obvious misguided view of The Apocalypse, one of the biggest things that stuck out to me was their yearning and need for human interaction; and how much we take that for granted, right now.  I can't begin to tell you how often I get irritated by how self-involved, cell phone/social media obsessed we are.  Again- I do realize the irony, being that that I'm currently blogging on a social media blogging sight.  I try not to be "part of the problem", however.  Let's just go back to a time where we control technology, but it doesn't control us! It makes me sad how quickly we've taken real human interaction & relationship for granted.

   The show is pretty funny, however! Kristen Schaal is as witty as ever, and here sense of humor clearly shines through!  So far, we find out that Phil Miller is basically a huge jerk with a heart of gold.  We see how many more folks we meet. Check it out!

Favorite Goal:  Set a New Year's Resolutions!

    I have to write these down when I'm thinking about them, or they just slip by... But one of my New Year's resolution for 2016 will be to read all of the books I have in my house.  I'm a famous collector of books.  There's this feeling like, if you see an interesting book, you can't just leave it there on the shelf or on Amazon...Expecially with the invention of Kindles, there are just so many I want to read, but can't read fast enough.  And in the process of having so many books that I still need to read, I keep acquiring more books; books that I actually do read and books that I really want to read, lol. It's an endless cycle...

Favorite Controversy:  Cop, Ben Fields, Slams Girl; Gets Fired


   I'm so tired of stories like this... I think it brings out the ugliest things in humanity.  Because not only was this act a misuse of force and power, but now there are subsequent articles about how "the girl did it to herself" and "She shouldn't have been disrespectful with authority, etc"... While I agree that her "entitlement" issues and apparent disrespect may have played a role, and are not permissible, it irritates me that every time something happens, there's always a counter group defending the actions of the aggressor.  Why is it ok for certain people to get away with things, and others not... In this case, the cop lost his job-- which was not him getting away with anything, but you've got people out here saying that his firing was unjustified.  These are the same people who want to look the other way and not realize that a lot of things in this world are racially, socially, economically, and authoritatively motivated.  People like to stick their heads in the sand and only come out when something relatively reflects on them.  This is not only a "white/black" issue, but it seems  like those are the stories that make the headlines & infuriate  people more than anything, because the history of our country.  And it's funny how when when it happens to a certain type of person that doesn't fit the perceived "criminal" profile, that no one goes writing blogs and articles about how a victim is assaulted.  But if you don't fit the certain demographic, the public is not always a gracious.  I'm not defending either side on this, because both parties were in the wrong.  She shouldn't have behaved the way she did, but he shouldn't have thrown her around a public class room.  And I vow to do better to teach my kids (should I be blessed with them) so that hopefully, they'll always be treated with respect and dignity, and do the same for others.

Favorite Drink:  Starbuck's Frappula!

  So, I'm so excited to try the Starbucks' Frappula this evening!! I couldn't remember what the name of the "new" secret drink was, [and maybe I'm still wrong] and got a Pumpkin Spice Frappucino that was so lackluster.  So, I'm going to try my luck with this Frappula.  If there was another drink I was more interested in, I guess I'll have to do some research.  But this one sounds pretty tasty!  It's a blend of White Chocolate, chocolate mocha sauce and raspberry drizzle.  I'll let you know if it's worth the hype!!

Favorite Song:  Hello by Adele

   Adele does it again!!  Why is it that we have to wait so long between songs from artists who are actually talented?  I would love to hear something from Bruno Mars, but he hasn't had a record since Moonshine Jungle.  Tacky artists are a dime a dozen & are constantly putting stuff out.  But Adele knocks it out with this sentimental ballad.

Well Gotta go!  More next week! 


Friday, October 23, 2015

Life is full of Phantasmagoria! (How many ways can YOU use it?) lol

   This week has been quite a week!  There have been ups & downs along with a phantasmagorical arrangement of events and circumstances... (I learned a new word & I'm trying to incorporate it, lol). Somehow, we managed! Here's what's been going on!

Favorite Youtube:  Mindy Kaling & BJ Novak at BookCon!

   I don't know if you'd have time to watch this (as it's almost an hour long) but it was pretty cute.  The whole time I'm thinking, "Please get back together, someday!"  They make such a great couple!  It's one of those times in life that you almost feel like "the world" loses out when people like that aren't together, anymore.  I think they will try and cross that bridge, again.  You can tell that there is great love between them. Apparently, they've just begun collaboration on a book about their relationship.  We'll see where that goes... Gotta love their chemistry!

Favorite Laugh:  The Cool Kids

   Most of the time, I don't feel this way... In fact, I take pride in the fact that most people still think I'm a College Kid... I can't tell you how many times I've been told that I look like I'm 23yrs or 25yrs old... But this MEME did make me laugh so much!

Favorite Movie:  AMY:  The Amy Winehouse Documentary Coming Soon to Retail!!!

   I was so nervous that I wouldn't be able to own a copy of this, because it is kind of an "Indy" type film that might be hard to get.  My sister and I were blown away by how great this documentary was when we saw it in the theatre a month or so ago & we're ecstatic that we'll be able to purchase it or our own DVD Libraries!! Every Amy Winehouse fan needs to own this!  It comes out on Amazon Prime in November, and on DVD, Blu-Ray and other Digital Medias DECEMBER 1, 2015!!

Favorite Gripe:  Power Trips

    This is my "serious" problem, right now... For one, I'm no Lemming, so to "follow" others [at times] tends to be a problem for me, especially if I don't agree with their methods or rationale.  Lately, I've been subjected to various levels of "Power Tripping" within a certain community with which I'm affiliated & it's become so annoying to me, I'm not sure how much longer I will endure it.  I'm all for being a "team player"-- but not when half the team is benched & playing around.   My time is just as valuable as theirs, and it sucks when those who have the power to change things, don't, and in many cases, overlook the problems at hand.  It's even worse when there are minions that are terrible about helping to formulate ideas, and are simply "the messenger" of other people's poorly crafted ideas.  It's just frustating...  This is what happens when obsessive & passive aggressive personalities get together and form a power-tripping baby.

Favorite Book:  Grey by E.L. James

   For those of us FSOG fans, here's another book! A sequel, if you will. I do believe that this was probably an epilogue at the end of one of the books, but I just started reading it, and so far, the quality of writing far surpasses that of the trilogy.  I am actually one of the FSOG fans that didn't get all hung up about the "sex" in the book, simply because the story, itself, was so captivating!  It was suspenseful and full of twists and turns.  If you can get passed the excessive sex and bad grammar (in the first books) than you really got a chance to look into a world very different than what most of us have experienced.  Since I've worked with social services for almost 13yrs, now, I'm interested in the backstories of kids who have been involved in the system.  Christian's rememberances of his youth are very much like some of the stories I see every day, working in this field.  Grey is the re-telling of how Christian and Anastasia meet, from his prospective!  I can't wait to get further along into this book!

Favorite Song:  Like I'm Gonna Lose You by Meghan Trainor & John Legend

   This song really speaks to my sentimental side.  Anyone who's ever been in love; or been in love that didn't last can possibly relate to this song.  I think, in all of us, there's always an element of ourselves that is lost when we lose someone; be it to death or when a relationship that was really meaningful to us, suddenly ends.  One thing I can say, though, is that I've been honest in all my relationships.  If they didn't work out, I was upfront about why.  I try to be honest without verbally eviscerating someone or tearing down their character.  But sometimes, people aren't right for you, even though a small piece of you is still with them & vice versa.  It's bittersweet.

Well, Take Care & have a great weekend!!



Monday, October 19, 2015

Lots O' Stories!

 Hello Friends,
   So... Long story... I had this blog in the making, last Friday-- but due to some unforeseen obligations, I was forced to stop Mid-Blog! (Can you believe it??) So, because I did all this hard work- I thought, "I'll just put it out Monday...They won't mind"... So, if you could just pretend it's Friday (like that's hard, right? lol) we can commence with the Blogging! 

Favorite New Show:  American Horror Story Hotel

    So far, I'm intrigued by the new season (and theme) of American Horror Story, but I'm also trying to figure out the point of it all.  We got a little more insight, last night about the history of the hotel, but I'm still trying to figure out what makes the hotel patrons cohesive.  I feel like this version (Hotel) seems a little more disjointed than the last season (AHS Freak Show).  With AHS Freak Show- they all had different abnormalities and different story lines that went into different directions-- but you could see that their continuity lay in the fact that they were all "freaks" and all a part of "the circus"... So far in Hotel, you've got a couple of Vampires... a "possible" Zombie or two, some random children who don't grow up, a few ghosts, a few older relics, and random drug addicts.  There's a sensation that you don't really know what decade  you're viewing or why you're viewing it.  While I'm trying to figure this out-- I can say that Lady Gaga is amazing in this show!  I hope she continues to pursue her acting, because she definitely has a knack for it.  Her pairing with Matt Bomer adds such a great component to the show. Sarah Paulson is also a genius in her role. I came to AHS late- and only saw most of Freak Show...So, I plan on catching up on the prior seasons. However,  it's intriguing & fun to watch during Halloween time!

Favorite Book:  Why Not Me? by Mindy Kaling

    I've been reading this, lately, and Mindy is still one of my favorite people on tv!  I think this book has a bit of a more "laid back" style than her first book [Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?].  It is similar,in the fact that it talks more about her work on The Mindy Project, while the former talked more about her upbringing and her work on The Office [tv show, 9 seasons].  I'm about 78% done with this book, and I'm really enjoying her anecdotes about her life and loves.  I still hope that one day, she ends up with actor, BJ Novak... I'll be so excited to read about how that finally comes together. 

Favorite Movie:  The Perfect Guy

  CAUTION:  This segment may contain SPOILER information.  If you haven't seen the movie, you may want to skip this part.  

     As with all popular movies, I waited to see this one.  Sadly, the lack luster reviews I heard from other folks turned out to be pretty on point.  To me, it's so frustrating to watch a movie that has so many of my favorite actors in it, yet it still flops because the story-line is dry, poorly written, or not produced well.  More frustratingly, I hate when you can get the whole gist of the movie, by just watching the trailer.  That was basically the case with this film.  I would've liked to see more of a progression between the time she was "smitten" with Carter (Michael Ealy) and the time that she realized he was bad news. It all felt very eerie and "fake" to me; I think this had a lot to do with the unnatural progression of their relationship, and also the musical score. She fell for him way too fast after breaking up with Dave (Morris Chestnut).  You would think that after 3yrs with someone, they would've met  your parents over some guy you just met a month ago... Aside from the basic information we got from the movie, this movie also broached some thought provoking undertones.  You could dissect the movie, and really pick out a few themes.  For one, I didn't love the theme that Leah (Sanaa Lathan) was with Dave for 3yrs (or maybe 5yrs? not sure) and was almost "punished" for trying to have a conversation with  Dave for marriage & breaking up with him for his non-commitment. I feel strongly against the idea that "just because a woman is a certain age, she should just "settle".  In this movie, Sanaa played an attractive, well-educated 36yrs old woman who still wanted kids & a husband.  She was in a  relationship with a man that was dragging his feet.  Although, I don't think a man should be given ultimatums or be forced into proposing, I think it's sad that as soon as she mentioned it, he got all bent out of shape about it.  Most men know what a woman wants out of a relationship within the first few weeks of dating her-- so being that he was years into it, and living with her it wasn't unreasonable for her to want to have a conversation about marriage & family life. 

    So she breaks up with him- and "a couple of months later" she meets this handsome man who is way too interested in her from the first interaction.  He goes from being this amazing (too good to be true) guy, to some kind of a creeper in 60 secs flat.  I think I would've enjoyed the movie had his "tendencies" unfolded slowly.  In the short time that they dated, she had not even been to his house, yet, she had him all up in her parents' house????  Then, after she unsuccessfully tries to rid herself from him, she goes crawling back to her ex (Dave)-- because "of course", going back to your Ex and all his hang-ups, is always preferential to staying single or finding a man more suitable for herself... (sarcasm) SMH.  So, she goes back to Dave, who still has his issues & hang-ups, and doesn't skip a beat, like nothing has happened. They have this "talk" on a side of a cliff that's supposed to be mending & healing for them-- but really, she was basically admitting she was "wrong" for wanting him to make a bigger commitment, but he just "missed her"... It was just lame, and characteristic to the fact that women have lowered their standards so much, that now we don't hold men to many standards.  

   Before I get on a rant and derail that train all the way... Another discussion point had to do with the law system.  There should definitely be stronger protection for preventive measures.  This woman goes to the police for help, and is basically given a few "basic" tips about dodging a stalker... They really didn't seem to take it seriously until things had already spun out of control... Instead of investigating the man initially & looking at his background & priors-- they basically ignored her until  people started coming up dead and it was clear that he was messing with her on a daily basis.  She had to take matters into he own hands and shoot the guy before they realized this wasn't just a typical dispute.  Sure- the police department doesn't have the time or resources to investigate every minor disturbance, but when someone comes to you repeatedly, things shouldn't have to turn into a homicide before someone starts paying attention.  

        Also, it brought up a few cultural issues as it relates to the law... Had this been a white woman being stalked by a white man, would she have gotten the same treatment by the police department?  If this were a white woman being stalked by a black man- would the police have responded the same way?  These were pretty middle-class/affluent black folks, too-- so an argument could also be brought about how the police may have responded should the scenario be changed (to include the above alterations), had they lived in a low-income neighborhood.  

    What I did like about this movie, was that it did kind of force you to think outside the box.  Most everything was predictable, but the real story and talking points are in the tertiary characters; relating to the story on a more realistic level.  It made me think of Marissa Alexander, who was (is?) incarcerated for defending herself against her ex-husband who was threatening her.  She fired a warning shot into the ceiling... No one was physically hurt... She actually has a carry & conceal license and had a clean record prior to this incident.  Yet-- she sits in a prison cell for defending herself?  It still doesn't make sense to me- but that is reality for you.  It made me think of all of the drama that "Leah" may have gone through, had she really shot Carter for intruding, in real life.  Would she be seen as the assailant, now that the real perpetrator was dead? I hate not knowing the answer to this.  I respect the police force [in theory] but the recent events that have transpired,  have seriously caused me to question how safe we really are, in America and what rights we really have.  

      Overall- the movie wasn't spectacular.  I wanted to go on "Cheap Ticket" night- but it wasn't playing in the theatre near me on that night, and at the theatre where I went, "cheap ticket night" had been the night before... It definitely wasn't worth my $11 to see it.... $19 if you include the concession stand.  But- the acting was good and it did provoke some good discussion on many topics.  I'd have to give it about 2.5 or 3 out of 5 stars.

Favorite Laugh:  Anaconda Vs. Erectile Dysfunction

  See you soon, loves!


Friday, October 2, 2015

All About Roman...

Hi guys... Remember me?  Yes, I took an unexpected brief hiatus from blogging, but I didn't forget you guys!  There have been new happenings! Let me share:

Favorite Friend: Meet  Roman... My "Ratcha"!

   I had wanted a dog for so long, but up until the past  year, I had lived too far away from my job to comfortably have one.  I just thought it would be unfair to leave a dog in a crate for 10 - 12hrs a day, without being able to let him out.  This past year, I've moved closer to my job, and feel better about the distance. Also, I'm a "Big Dog" girl, at heart.  I went to great lengths to find a small dog I'd be compatible with.  For starters, I didn't want a "yapper".  I can't stand a dog who just barks because he likes to bark.  I've grown up with big dogs all my life, and even with 2 parents and 4 brothers & sisters, I'm not used to all the noise.  I also  wanted a nice dog who didn't have a "Diva" attitude. I wanted him to listen to commands and be housebroken.  I also didn't want to deal with a lot of fur or hair.  Grooming bills add up!  I also didn't want a punk dog.  (Lemme explain) I didn't want a dog that seemed fragile or was "nervous"or scared all the time.  I didn't want a dog that looked like it couldn't run or jump without breaking a leg. I wanted a sturdy little fella! And all of this needed to be 25lbs or less...  Basically, I was looking for a miracle, because all of those qualities in a small dog can be pretty hard to find.  Basically I wanted a miniature Bullmastiff (ha ha).


   So, imagine my surprise when I ended up with little Roman.. He's part Chihuahua part Rat Terrier (they believe)... The Designer Dog tastemakers call him a "Ratcha", for that reason.  The funny thing is, I didn't really want a Chihuahua or a Chihuahua mix.  Most Chihuahuas that I've come across were yappy, anti-social and mean.  Roman is NONE of those things.  He's so sweet, he listens pretty well (even though he can be stubborn at times) and the is pretty quiet.  He's not a huge barker, which is amazing for an apartment dweller.

     I adopted Roman from SICSA, because I'm a huge believer in adopting an animal over buying one from a pet shop.  There are so many good pets that are in need of good homes, and way too many pet shops who support Puppy Mills.  Many of these Puppy Mills are not reputable breeders, and use inhumane practices for manufacturing animals.  A lot of the time, the mothers are bred repeatedly, littler after litter without reprieve, until they just can't anymore, then they are just left to die. It's so sad.  So, this is my little PSA to support your local shelters/rescues and steer clear of pet shops!

   I have always been a huge fan of wrestling, so I thought it would  be fun to give my dog a cool "Wrestling name".  So, I picked out 4 of my favorite wrestler names (I couldn't decide between the 4) and put the names in envelopes.  Then, I put a treat on each one, and let my new pup pick his name... The choices were "Phoenix", "Roman", "Kane", and "Randy".  He picked "Roman".  I really struggled the most between Roman and Phoenix, and I thought he looked more like a Phoenix... So, I tried to call him Phoenix,  But... He doesn't respond to that at all, lol. So, Roman it is, after one of my favorite (and hottest wrestlers) Roman Reigns!

Roman Reigns
(Twinsies, right? lol)

More things about Roman:

Birthday:  August 19, 2013

Age:  2yrs old

Favorite Toy:  Used to be a plush Monkey, before he killed it. Right now it's a squeaky plush Otter and a plushy elephant. (He loves the squeaky plush toys)

Favorite Food:  IAMs and treats! Especially the kinds shaped like little cuts of beef or steak.

Favorite Shirt:  Roman prefers to be naked... but I think he likes his sweater that keeps him warm.  Plus, he's a "Fall"...

Favorite Pastime:  Taking walks by the pond by our house & chasing the ducks/geese that like to congregate on the pond. Also playing with his squeaky plushy toys. He will entertain himself if playtime is over for me! lol

Favorite Friends:  Bailey, Bently, and DJ. Although, we might be in a fight with DJ...

Favorite Place to Sleep:  Wherever I am :) He's such a snuggler!!

Favorite Reality Show:  I Am Cait

*** This portion of the blog was written after the first episode of I Am Cait... I saved it for my next blog, before hiatus. I didn't realize hiatus would be so long... But I didn't want to scrap the article, because I think it's good info. :) - T

        I had reservations about watching this show for a few reasons. One of the reasons, was because i wasn't sure that I wanted to be "Kardashianed" anymore in life than we already are.  I used to be a fan, but after awhile, it just seemed like they were these entirely vapid human beings, who I didn't want to give my precious tv time.  But, I'm a curious learner, by nature- and I thought, "Maybe, this might be the only chance I'll have to see a person enter into this transgender lifestyle from the beginning.  I was already familiar with Bruce from when I used to watch Keeping up with the Kardashians, and I thought he had a lot of common sense... That is, until he turned into Caitlyn, lol.  Caitlyn is in for a rude awakening if she wants to be some kind of "Spokesperson" for the LGBTQ community.  I was hoping that Bruce would come into being Caitlyn with grace and dignity, but so far, he's shown that he might've been almost as superficial as his Kardashian Kounterparts... How arrogant do you have to be to jump into an issue where you're uneducated, yet still claim to want to be a spokesperson for that particular community? The second show of the documentary shows some Transgender women being super patient, when you can tell they were offended by Caitlyn's candor.

      Caitlyn comes to them with a few books she's read under her belt and the luxury of superfluous wealth to spend on the finest plastic surgeons, but with no real knowledge of what the issues that plague that community.  Those transgender women were clutching their pearls at some of the things coming out of Caitlyn's mouth.  They all went down to an HRC (Human Resource Center) to meet "real women" (no double-entendre intended, lol)  to talk about the issues within the community. It became very clear that Caitlyn's financial status put a definitive wedge between her ever being a real spokesperson, if she doesn't take the time to educate herself and humble herself to realize that most trans-people aren't as publicly embraced or financially fortunate as she is & don't have the socio/economical status to make things comfortable for them throughout life.

      Overall, it's elitist and egregious for her to attempt to become some kind of icon within that community, without having the foggiest idea what the threats are, even on the most rudimentary level.  It seems that if I were in Bruce/Caitlyn's shoes, and I felt that I was a gender-variant individual, you'd think that I'd at least know what the basic threats to my community are ... As a black Christian woman, I'm well aware of the threats & concerns of my community and it's incredibly disappointing to realize that she/he has not done any research or kept up to date on the concerns. If you say something is a part of who you are, and has been for years, why would you be so disconnected? Well, these Transgender people didn't give a pass on his/her ignorance.  They call Caitlyn out, and I agree that they have every right to question someone who claims to want to represent them, especially with the notoriety and infamous "Kardashian-Jenner" reputation/ that proceeds her.  As a straight biologial woman- I'm not in this community, yet I seemed to be more versed about those issues than Caitlyn does... I hope their community gets her together, because it's going to be a rude awakening for Bruce/Caitlyn if they do not.

Favorite Laugh/Rant:   Standards

     I mean, we really need to be raising our standards in society, now.  We're just getting worse and as a result of getting worse, we're also accepting worse from people. I actually saw a window decal that said "Legalize Murder"... Really?  For some reason, it seems like people fail to have standards, because people seem to believe that by engaging your own standards, its some kind of infringement on other people's rights.  Why is that? If you are offended by other people's standards, then change your own standards or choose to view theirs differently!  If someone else is making you feel inferior about your standards, that's your problem, not theirs.  Because they choose to live their life differently than you, does not mean they're judging you, either.  I think that's the root of the problem.  People rather become offended by you upholding your standards, than to just fine tune their own...

    I think the bigger problem is that people don't really have standards... If you were secure in your standards (or actually had some), you wouldn't care what other people's standards were; their standards would just be parallel to yours, not greater or less.  And before anyone makes the fine point that I was judging the "Legalize Murder" person for having that as their window decal... I think we can mostly agree that some things should be judged, and that there's a general sense of moral structure (that is unfortunately on the verge of collapsing) that most of us live by...and Murdering folks legally would be on the list of things most people would say are in bad taste... amiright, amiright?

That concludes this week's blog!  I just wanted to share Roman with you guys, and to send a little shout out.  I would've written more.,, but Roman's stuff took up a lot.  But I wouldn't have it another way.  Roman is a joy to have in my home.  

Have a Wonderful Weekend, ya'll!