Hello Friends! Another busy weekend for me! I try to do my blogs at the end of my work day, but since I've been leaving early on a lot of Fridays, lately, I've been missing my entries more! I mean, because let's face it... after I've been on the computer all day at work, I'm not about to make the trek to use the wi-fi at my Apartment Complex Club House and fire up my laptop... It's just not happening... But, I will try to make up for all I haven't written! Here's What's Going on!
We Will Miss You, Joan!!
I think one of the saddest things about some of the talented folks that are passing away, is that we're not just missing that person specifically... We're missing the fact that there are no entertainers that are really filling the shoes of the legends. That in itself is really a disheartening thing to think about. Even the entertainers that potentially could emerge into legends, seem to flake off & miss the mark, eventually. So, we're left with voids in entertainment, art & talent that we never really worried about before... Because even those who could potentially hold that "legend" status (ahem, Beyonce) succumb to the commercialism and fanaticism of our culture. Never before has "Today's news lines tomorrow's bird cages" ever been more true...
Joan was definitely one of a kind. She was definitely a polarizing comic. It's almost like you love her or you hate her. I loved her because no one was "Off Limits", not even herself. Sure, no one is going to love EVERY joke, but there are countless times I've sat on my couch in stitches over a side comment or a bit that she's did... I think Joan was at her funniest when she was on "Joan & Melissa/Joan Knows Best" show... She was the best when she was with her family. I loved her relationship with Cooper, and how everyone adored her, even when she was pissing them off... As I type this, so many memories of the show come to mind, and I am saddened that there will never be another Joan & Melissa season... I would watch a few documentaries about her, and it would make me a little upset that there seemed to be a sadness about her (as there is with so many comedians)... I hope she was truly happy and felt God's blessings in her life. I wish I could thank her, personally, for all the laughs... for all the times she helped me get my mind off things... for all the times she showed to be someone you wanted to have in your corner... Standing up for her family & friends and defending them, no holds barred. We need more people like Joan...
Favorite Show: Bachelor in Paradise... = Hot Mess TV
So, my curiosity was peaked when they told us that there was going to be a NEW version of The Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise. Originally, this wasn't the type of show I'd watch, but my co-workers were into it & they sucked me in! Each episode is jammed packed with Hot Messiness! For starters, the whole concept is pretty much a recipe for H.A.M (Hot A** Mess)! In order to "stay on the island" you've got to make a connection with someone who is willing to keep you there. If they make stronger connection (and potential romantic liaison) with another castmate, you run the risk of being left without the rose! It's all scandalous, because they keep bringing new folks in & they have to potentially step on the toes over others who have already made connections... and then you're wondering what connections were real & which ones were simply to secure a spot to safety... It's all a mess. So many of the couples are "in love"... but it's really annoying, knowing 95% probably won't be after the show ends, lol. SMH Good ol' drama...
Favorite Controversy: Marriage..
Don't get me wrong, I'm all about marriage... But I just think some folks make it look bad... I hope, someday, to be married, but at the end of the day, I think I'll always be who I am, as well. I'm seeing so many couples who take the "Two Become One" a little too literally... I mean, shouldn't it be two compatible people that make a dynamic or balaced duo? I mean, one person doesn't actually have to morph into the other. I think the coolest couples are the ones who have fun together, because they are a unique pairing. It scares me a little when people have NO identity outside of their spouse & marriage. They're the ones that have to mention their significant others every chance they get, whether or not its relevant or not.... I once had a girl tell me that she couldn't go to Skyline with me for lunch, because her boyfriend (whom she wouldn't be seeing for another 4hrs) would be jealous... Are you freakin' kidding me??? A) He's not meeting you for lunch, so what does he care where you go for lunch? B) All of the meals are under $10, so I'm pretty sure if he wants Skyline, he can get it... It's so weird. I mean, I'm all for a unified front, but some of you heffas are taking it to a whole other level, lol. It's always good to have tons of things in common with a significant other, but there are folks that never seem to have any interests of their own. It's like, for as long as you've known that person, you know the things they fain interest for aren't something that would genuinely interest them , if they weren't with their significant other... Just because you may not be "Single" doesn't mean that you still can't be an "individual"... There's a difference and a gap where people think Co-dependency is love...it's kinda gross...
Favorite Pastime: Paintin' Stuff
I'm actually not a great painter, I admit it! But these things turned out pretty nice! I worked on some projects this past weekend that kept me pretty busy! I painted the back of my door, I painted a side table, a night stand, and some picture frames. My bed room is the last room to really get the Tiffani Treatment, and it's coming along beautifully, not without its challenges, though. My biggest challenge has been NOT getting any of these very rich colors on my carpet or furniture, which happen to both be a very light beige (like almost white, lol). But nonetheless, I spent a lot of time working on my projects and they're really paying off! The pic above contains the front drawers of the nightstand. The same flower pattern is actually the same pattern no my bed spread. The main reason for this was to bring in the turquoise that I really wanted in my room, that didn't quite fit. I couldn't find any dresser, nightstand, or curtains that matched the type of feel I'm going for (Moroccan/India Chic... Think Dr. Mindy Lahiri, if she was a Neat Freak, lol), so I just decided to paint my own. I'm pretty happy with house this is coming along.
Favorite Hot Mess: Love & Hip Hop Atlanta Reunion
"If the show is allowed to return, then she should, as well... She's basically the epitome of what the show is about, let's be honest. There has barely been anyone who's shown any kind of "Love" or "Hip Hop" on the show in ANY season... All the "talent" has been b-rate, at best. Let's not try to pretend that the show is at a higher caliber than what we've been shown..."
I'm so tired of these shows trying to act like they're not playing us. They keep trying to act like they don't allow it/ set it up for the ratings... We're not dumb. If the first person who ever did this or subsequent "follwers" who did this got locked up or fined for it, they wouldn't be doing it every chance they get. No, "the show" doesn't physically make them do what they do on camera, but they edit what they want anyway and provoke situations-- so stop trying to act like it's more "High Brow" of a show than what it is. It's ratchet tv, we watch because at least it's not our ratchedness we have to deal with. It's a modern day soap opera for us, basically... but VH1 needs to stop trying to act like they don't have a series of shows that all contain the same sort of content. The only reason that people are all up in arms about the fight from this reunion, was that it was unexpected. The security wasn't ready for it... but stop trying to act as if it'd be any different if she was off the show... smh.
Favorite Activity: Trivia Night!
I've pretty much dubbed myself one of the most Antisocial- Social people I know! I used to call it "being balanced"... until I realized that I'm not as balanced as I once believed I was. I pretty much went out with the same people (usually married friends w/kids, when their husbands let them off of restriction for the night, ha ha) And same types of places (Like their house & my house, or a restaurant). I love doing those things, but the bottom line is, I need to meet NEW people, too, if I'm ever gonna have a family of my own, one day. Not that it's my sole purpose in life, but let's face it- who wants to end up alone when they're old?
So, I've been making more of an attempt to meet new people through this site called Meetup.com ! So far, I love it! You can sign up online for pretty much any state (as far as I know) in the US. Wednesday, my friend and I went to a Trivia night at a local eatery, and it was fun... Aside from the two douchebags that sat next to us, we had a great time. Do you know people that are super-sarcastic 99% of the time? Know-it-alls? Make derogatory remarks? Genuinely think they're the funniest person in the room, when they sorely mistaken? Yeah- those were these guys... Other than that the other people in the group were pretty cool. I encourage you to explore some new things in your city, like me! Write me in the comments! :) Happy Meeting!