Friday, September 19, 2014

Not Flaking This Week!

   This week has been entirely too crazy! Seriously, I woke up this morning and saw a bottle of wine in my wine rack, and thought, "Tonight, I'm gonna drink that whole bottle..."-- I won't--- but it was funny that I seriously thought that. So it should surprise you that I'm taking time to do this! I need to get better at posting & saving during the week, so that I can just do finishing touches on Fridays, like I used to... I'll work on it... in the meantime...

Favorite Sitcom:  The Mindy Project, Season 3

    Can I say, I've been salivating over the premiere of The Mindy Project for a few weeks, now, and SOOO glad it's finally here!  This pic is the part where Danny Castellano (Chris Messina) puts on a strip tease for his girlfriend, Mindy.  You'll have to watch the episode to see why & how they ended up in this predicament, but let me just always, hilarity ensues! 

Favorite Gripe:  Too "Skinny" vs. Too "Fat"

    It's probably really de classe` for me to say this, but I'm going to anyway, because I am tired of rolling my eyes & feeling insensitive for my thoughts... but I'm so tired of the whole "too skinny vs. too fat" debate that seems to always break out, online whenever anyone posts any issue about body image... The problem is, I wish people would just keep it real.  Suppose there is a random group of people ranging in size, anywhere from "average" to "obese", commiserating about the difficulties of not having the ideal body... inevitably there will always be a thin girl who tries to act like being seen as "too skinny" is an equal side of the same coin.  Hate to tell you, but IT'S NOT!

    Now, I won't be entirely too insensitive & say that women who wish they were curvier, had bigger breasts, curvier hips or have had comments made to them, about how skinny they are don't get irritated or their feelings hurt, sometimes... I'm sure there is some validity to people who actually are ridiculed for it, because they actually do look "boney"...  However, I feel like the majority folks who say skinny folks suffer the same way, are exaggerating, entirely.  The media & society are constantly fat-shaming  I would like to see the person who thinks they're too skinny volunteer to "trade places" with an overweight or obese person... and not like in the "Voluptuous in the right places" kind of overweight- I mean, big belly, fupa, cellulite, round face, jiggles when you walk, breaking weight capacity, fat-fat... Any takers?

   For starters... the skinnier you get, they don't start making uglier clothes for you.  Being a woman with substantial extra weight immediately puts you into the "ugly grandma" "Solids" or "overpriced cute but cliche", clothes... This is probably the most shallow of all the ways it's not the same... more significant proof being that people pretty much always forgive that someone is "naturally skinny" and has a hard time putting on weight-- but for some reason, they think a fat person should just be able to eat less & go to the gym 2-3 times a week, and be back to "normal" in a month.  Society also always makes negative stereotypes about fat people.  No one is ever really seen for "trying to lose weight" unless there's a dramatic visual change, or you physically see them sweating in a gym. Until then, you're stuck with the label, until you can blend in with all the other "normal sized" people. They've been overlooked & passed up for jobs, had judgment calls about their lifestyles, been called mountains of unacceptable names that society excuses, just because they're overweight!

    What's the first insults kids learn when they are kids? Ugly, Fat... Big Fat... etc...  I could go on about this, and bring on so many points, but I'm also not trying to make this my entire blog... I love my skinny friends & family- This is not about jealousy or shaming anyone for being thin. I am striving to get "fit, too-- But it's about realizing that it's a little bit of a slap in the face to most of us who struggle w/our weight issues, and a society that tells us we're not good enough, on a daily basis vs. The few times a year Aunt Kathy makes an insensitive comment or the few occasions you might need padding in your bra, but the world is pretty much ok with you. I'm just trying to say that I'm sorry, my skinny friends, but the world does not treat you the same way if you happen to be too thin, as if you're a bit or a lot overweight. Yes, people who want to lose weight & those who want to gain BOTH struggle in the fight for body acceptance, but still, it's not the same fight  and I'm so sick of people acting like it is.


    Ok, so I might be more excited about this than most people, simply because I'm a bit of a Lauren Conrad fan! This chic is amazing! I had the pleasure of meeting her at a book signing a few years back, and she was just so sweet & kind.  I also admire how she's handled her fame.  Where are other members of The Hills? Not really doing anything.  The only person I know that has been able to parlay their exposure from The Hills into a reputable presense is Audrina Patridge, who just hosts some cooking show.  I haven't heard anything from Whitney's clothing line in years, Lo Bosworth just moved to New York to try to grow her brand... but Lauren has been the only one to fully stay somewhat relevant over the years.  Brody Jenner would be a close second, but he's also tied in with The Kardashian Klan and has a famous last name.  Speaking of Brody, I always hoped they'd get back together, but I guess he missed out... 
   I just love how I've gotten to know about Lauren through her website & to see that she's a lot more "down to earth" than you would think.  It's really cool to see pics of her real-life friends and to peek into the "real" LC... We know that, we'll never be able to see the truest depiction, but she just seems like a very versatile chic & I love that! Congratulations Mrs. Tell! 

Favorite Controversy:  Race Card FAIL!

    So... Nothing hurts civil rights cases more when folks misuse the "Race Card"... And don't date people for who they are, rather than for novelty.  When you are constantly reminded & thinking about the racial differences between you or another person, of course you're going to be extra sensitive to it publicly.  When this story of Daniele Watts broke (Actress on Django), I was appalled and on her side.  The article I read seemed so irritatingly wrong, especially in the light of so many other racial killings, lately.  So, imagine my disgust when it is exposed that Daniele was actually trying to pull the old Okey-doke on America??? I saw the pics & listened to the audio of her entire interaction w/the police.  Aside from Daniele being over-sensitive & misusing her race to get out of a situation, the real scandal is with her boyfriend, Brian Lucas, a RAWKstar Chef... 

      He absolutely & totally threw her under the bus. I personally think the whole thing is a ploy to boost their popularity.  I'm not saying that she has never justifiably had reason to play a race card (as in This article), but in this situation, she made a scene during the wrong arrest.  For one, I think they were having sex in the car. No- I wasn't there, but everyone is acting like "Oh, she was fully clothed..." That hasn't stopped plenty of people, trust me... 

   But other than the photos & her dramatic behavior on Audio, she might have had more of a population that believed them--- except for the fact that her boyfriend basically tried to befriend the cop.  He sided with him and basically pointed the finger at her as the "crazy irrational over-sensitive black lady..."  "Here she is, another black person pulling the race card, again... When will they learn?"  It's total crap, if you ask me!  This is the reason why so many senseless killings are happening around the world, and people are looking the other way. She wasn't making a stand for a rightful situation-- and now, her entire credibility is shot (for now, at least), ESPECIALLY since her man didn't back her up.  saying "She has a problem, she'll work through this... She works on herself... She's just sensitive..."  Every time someone does this, and does it so publicly, any time a REAL injustice happens, people rush not to believe it or to be skeptical that anything "racial" happen... But just go on TMZ or other social media sites, and see all the hateful & racial things people say.  So, even though there are bad seeds out there trying to publicize themselves, there are tons that aren't being taking seriously & are suffering for it... 

  It's getting late, and I'm going out tonight!  Hopefully I'll bet more organized with this next week! Toodle-loo!! 

Friday, September 5, 2014

Slacking, Please Still Love Me! LOL

    Hello Friends!  Another busy weekend for me! I try to do my blogs at the end of my work day, but since I've been leaving early on a lot of Fridays, lately, I've been missing my entries more! I mean, because let's face it... after I've been on the computer all day at work, I'm not about to make the trek to use the wi-fi at my Apartment Complex Club House and fire up my laptop... It's just not happening... But, I will try to make up for all I haven't written! Here's What's Going on!

We Will Miss You, Joan!! 

   I think one of the saddest things about some of the talented folks that are passing away, is that we're not just missing that person specifically... We're missing the fact that there are no entertainers that are really filling the shoes of the legends.  That in itself is really a disheartening thing to think about.  Even the entertainers that potentially could emerge into legends, seem to flake off & miss the mark, eventually. So, we're left with voids in entertainment, art & talent that we never really worried about before... Because even those who could potentially hold that "legend" status (ahem, Beyonce) succumb to the commercialism and fanaticism of our culture.  Never before has "Today's news lines tomorrow's bird cages" ever been more true... 

   Joan was definitely one of a kind. She was definitely a polarizing comic. It's almost like you love her or you hate her.  I loved her because no one was "Off Limits", not even herself.  Sure, no one is going to love EVERY joke, but there are countless times I've sat on my couch in stitches over a side comment or a bit that she's did... I think Joan was at her funniest when she was on "Joan & Melissa/Joan Knows Best" show... She was the best when she was with her family.  I loved her relationship with Cooper, and how everyone adored her, even when she was pissing them off... As I type this, so many memories of the show come to mind, and I am saddened that there will never be another Joan & Melissa season... I would watch a few documentaries about her, and it would make me a little upset that there seemed to be a sadness about her (as there is with so many comedians)... I hope she was truly happy and felt God's blessings in her life.  I wish I could thank her, personally, for all the laughs... for all the times she helped me get my mind off things... for all the times she showed to be someone you wanted to have in your corner... Standing up for her family & friends and defending them, no holds barred. We need more people like Joan...

Favorite Show:  Bachelor in Paradise... = Hot Mess TV

   So, my curiosity was peaked when they told us that there was going to be a NEW version of The Bachelor/Bachelorette franchise.  Originally, this wasn't the type of show I'd watch, but my co-workers were into it & they sucked me in! Each episode is jammed packed with Hot Messiness! For starters, the whole concept is pretty much a recipe for H.A.M (Hot A** Mess)! In order to "stay on the island" you've got to make a connection with someone who is willing to keep you there.  If they make stronger connection (and potential romantic liaison) with another castmate, you run the risk of being left without the rose!  It's all scandalous, because they keep bringing new folks in & they have to potentially step on the toes over others who have already made connections... and then you're wondering what connections were real & which ones were simply to secure a spot to safety... It's all a mess. So many of the couples are "in love"... but it's really annoying, knowing 95% probably won't be after the show ends, lol. SMH Good ol' drama...

Favorite Controversy:  Marriage..

    Don't get me wrong, I'm all about marriage... But I just think some folks make it look bad... I hope, someday, to be married, but at the end of the day, I think I'll always be who I am, as well.  I'm seeing so many couples who take the "Two Become One" a little too literally... I mean, shouldn't it be two compatible people that make a dynamic or balaced duo? I mean, one person doesn't actually have to morph into the other. I think the coolest couples are the ones who have fun together, because they are a unique pairing. It scares me a little when people have NO identity outside of their spouse & marriage. They're the ones that have to mention their significant others every chance they get, whether or not its relevant or not.... I once had a girl tell me that she couldn't go to Skyline with me for lunch, because her boyfriend (whom she wouldn't be seeing for another 4hrs) would be jealous... Are you freakin' kidding me??? A) He's not meeting you for lunch, so what does he care where you go for lunch?  B) All of the meals are under $10, so I'm pretty sure if he wants Skyline, he can get it... It's so weird.  I mean, I'm all for a unified front, but some of you heffas are taking it to a whole other level, lol. It's always good to have tons of things in common with a significant other, but there are folks that never seem to have any interests of their own. It's like, for as long as you've known that person, you know the things they fain interest for aren't something that would genuinely interest them , if they weren't with their significant other... Just because you  may not be "Single" doesn't mean that you still can't be an "individual"... There's a difference and a gap where people think Co-dependency is's kinda gross... 

Favorite Pastime:  Paintin' Stuff

   I'm actually not a great painter, I admit it! But these things turned out pretty nice! I worked on some projects this past weekend that kept me pretty busy!  I painted the back of my door, I painted a side table, a night stand, and some picture frames. My bed room is the last room to really get the Tiffani Treatment, and it's coming along beautifully, not without its challenges, though.  My biggest challenge has been NOT getting any of these very rich colors on my carpet or furniture, which happen to both be a very light beige (like almost white, lol).  But nonetheless, I spent a lot of time working on my projects and they're really paying off! The pic above contains the front drawers of the nightstand.  The same flower pattern is actually the same pattern no my bed spread.  The main reason for this was to bring in the turquoise that I really wanted in my room, that didn't quite fit.  I couldn't find any dresser, nightstand, or curtains that matched the type of feel I'm going for (Moroccan/India Chic... Think Dr. Mindy Lahiri, if she was a Neat Freak, lol), so I just decided to paint my own.  I'm pretty happy with house this is coming along.

Favorite Hot Mess:  Love & Hip Hop Atlanta Reunion

    Sister 2 Sister Magazine posted a question online, to ask viewers' opinions "if bad girl Joseline Hernandez (second from the right) should be allowed to return to the show for next season..." My answer was

     "If the show is allowed to return, then she should, as well... She's basically the epitome of what the show is about, let's be honest. There has barely been anyone who's shown any kind of "Love" or "Hip Hop" on the show in ANY season... All the "talent" has been b-rate, at best. Let's not try to pretend that the show is at a higher caliber than what we've been shown..."

   I'm so tired of these shows trying to act like they're not playing us.  They keep trying to act like they don't allow it/ set it up for the ratings... We're not dumb. If the first person who ever did this  or subsequent "follwers" who did this got locked up or fined for it, they wouldn't be doing it every chance they get. No, "the show" doesn't physically make them do what they do on camera, but they edit what they want anyway and provoke situations-- so stop trying to act like it's more "High Brow" of a show than what it is. It's ratchet tv, we watch because at least it's not our ratchedness we have to deal with. It's a modern day soap opera for us, basically... but VH1 needs to stop trying to act like they don't have a series of shows that all contain the same sort of content. The only reason that people are all up in arms about the fight from this reunion, was that it was unexpected. The security wasn't ready for it... but stop trying to act as if it'd be any different if she was off the show... smh.

Favorite Activity:  Trivia Night!

   I've pretty much dubbed myself one of the most Antisocial- Social people I know! I used to call it "being balanced"... until I realized that I'm not as balanced as I once believed I was. I pretty much went out with the same people (usually married friends w/kids, when their husbands let them off of restriction for the night, ha ha) And same types of places (Like their house & my house, or a restaurant).  I love doing those things, but the bottom line is, I need to meet NEW people, too, if I'm ever gonna have a family of my own, one day.  Not that it's my sole purpose in life, but let's face it- who wants to end up alone when they're old? 
    So, I've been making more of an attempt to meet new people through this site called ! So far, I love it! You can sign up online for pretty much any state (as far as I know) in the US. Wednesday, my friend and I went to a Trivia night at a local eatery, and it was fun... Aside from the two douchebags that sat next to us, we had a great time.  Do you know people that are super-sarcastic 99% of the time? Know-it-alls? Make derogatory remarks? Genuinely think they're the funniest person in the room, when they sorely mistaken? Yeah- those were these guys... Other than that the other people in the group were pretty cool.  I encourage you to explore some new things in your city, like me! Write me in the comments! :) Happy Meeting!