Friday, July 25, 2014

Learning and More Learning...

   I generally claim to be a very self-actualized person... but there's always room for improvement, right? I know what you're saying..."Oh, Tiffani... we can't possibly think of ANYTHING you might need to change about're simply fantastic!!"  So, yeah, you're probably right, but regardless, I still found a few areas of my life I'd like to change.  I even started this post last week (which I didn't publish, but have saved for another post) but I thought it'd be better to go in another direction.  So, here we go w/this week!

Favorite Live Coach/Public Figure/Author/This Week's Crush/Amazing Brit:  Matthew Hussey

   So, this seems a little fru-fru & frilly...Oh...Love...ewww... But, there are so many things that love encompasses.  For one, it starts with recognizing things about yourself.  One of the major things that I recognized by going to Matthew's seminar in Chicago, was that I have both the blessing & curse of enjoying my own company.  I do not mind being alone. I love to do whatever I want. I love to read, to veg out in front of a tv, to sleep, to do a craft, etc..etc... but too often, those things will not bring the OTHER thing I want in my life, which is a family of my own. The blessing is I'm rarely bored... I can always find something to do. The curse comes with the fact that I will meet very few people (socially or romantically) hanging out in my apartment or at my friends' houses. And considering the only people I meet at my house are my neighbors (Nope, no- we already learned not to date our neighbors in Joshua-gate 2005, lol) and the delivery people like the Postman and Pizza Guy... and since it took 9yrs at my last apartment for the pizza guy to ask me out...and even so, after I told him I was moving, I don't think that's the direction I want to go (ha ha).  So, these days, I'm making more of a concentrated effort to get out there and just be involved in my community, city, social scene, etc.  Overall, I enjoyed Matthew's seminar a lot. there were a few things that were a little crazy about it, but it was a great experience. Plus he's super attractive on the inside & out!

Favorite Trailer:  (OK, I was stretching for this one, lol) Fifty Shades of Grey Trailer

   So, many people know my feelings about this book series.  Don't get lost in all of the sex. Get lost in the entirety of them! The story is so good! And the trailer has come out! Can't wait until the movie in February! It's going to be challenge for them to be as great as the books!

Favorite Hotel:  Courtyard Marriott of Arlington, IL (Chicago)

 The beautiful bed I got to sleep in!

 You can even send your laundry out, if you're fancy... 

 The Lounge area... 

The beautiful view (through the screen door)

   I won't go into great detail about this room, but I can say that I was thoroughly impress for only paying $68.00 through!  Yes, folks, $68.00!!  It was definitely a sweet deal. My only major complaint was about them being sneaky & charging you for a liter of water left in the room (and then them double charging me, as well)... but that's in a lot of hotels, right?  Still not cool... but whatever. It was an amazing time!

Favorite *NEW* Adventure:  Brothels, Bootleggers & Booze Tour, Cincinnati, OH

    This weekend, I will have a chance to experience the Brothels, Bootleggers, and Booze tour in Cincinnati, OH!  It’s going to be so much fun. I’m going to get to learn about a lot of the local history of the Cincinnati area during prohibition time, and see the actual secret passageways, etc. They are not only going to provide great history, but they'll be allowing us to have a meal and sample beers along the way.  I'm not a huge drinker, but I do believe this will be a fun and unique thing to do! I'm so excited about it! 

Favorite Revelation: I am Officially Grown..

   Regardless of your political beliefs, this quote is awesome. (Because I know that there are some folks that are so narrow-minded, that just the mention of a politician (or politician's wife) of an opposing party is scoffed, mocked, or sneered at before even realizing what's being said.)  I had a few challenges this week that made me sit back and think, "Hmmm, you're really grown, aren't you?" Despite my playful & fun-loving nature I am very reflective & introspective at times, as well.  There were a few times this week, where I recognized,  that a lesser confident woman may have taken some of the things that were said personally.  But, because I know who I am, I know where I stand in my beliefs, I own my opinions and implore others to do the same, it makes me unfrazzled when people accuse me of being something I'm not. So what other BS light other folks might try to paint you in, is irrelevant.  It's like someone trying to convince me that I'm Green... I'm not green, I know this for a fact. I used to feel that way about "Gold Diggers", too.  I used to be so afraid that a guy would thing I was a gold digger-- so I always tried to go Dutch or didn't want them going out of their way for me, for fear that the guy would think that.  It stems from a reputation another member in my family had... But I guess, in that circumstance, I didn't give others enough credit to be able to decipher his actions from mine... Eventually, I grew up and realized like the old adage says... "I'm rubber... and you're glue..." Even though what they're saying doesn't necessarily stick to them... at least it's not sticking to me either, because it's not who I am. It's just fact. 
     I hope to never be a person who refuses to grow and learn or respect others' opinions or beliefs and defend their right to have their own opinions. I'm glad that I recognized that I can go toe to toe with anyone, and also realized that I don't always have to either. For some, just knowing who you are and knowing who is relevant in your life is enough.  

Favorite Music:  Citizen Cope... Thanks to my Jealousy of Shakira Autumn! :) 

  My friend Shakira reminded me how much I like Citizen Cope's vibe.  I've been listening to it all day, wishing I could go to the concert with her! Maybe. Orlando might be seeing me soon!

  Well, that's it, folks! I'm thinking of giving my blog a facelift, as well! So let me know your suggestions in the comments below, or on my facebook! Also, tell me what kinds of fun adventures you're going to doing! 


Saturday, July 12, 2014

You Must Be At Least "This Thick..."

 I really REALLY wanted to post my blog yesterday, but if you knew the hectic day I had, you would realize why I had to hold off. I actually did most of my blog throughout the week & still didn't have enough time to get it out on Friday... but Who cares? I make the rules anyway, right? ha ha Here's what I've been thinking about this week:

Favorite Topic:  "You Must At Least Be This Thick..."

   Can I just say, I will ALWAYS be a curvy lady... Right now, I currently have more curves than I should or want, but at the end of the day, I think it is about time that "Plus-sized models" actually look like  plus-sized models!!  It sucks to have to be plus-sized in the first place, when you want to be smaller... but while I'm here & working on it (again...*sigh*) Can I just see a swimsuit on a thicker girl??? I'm soooo  tired of looking for clothes, and all the models are size 6 or 8 models pretending to be big girls... honey, please... If you're not at least ^^^ THIS BIG (see above pics)^^^  please don't model for plus sizes! I know it sucks to be an "average" sized model in the modeling industry.

Nigel: Not since two became new four and zero became the new two. 

Andy Sachs: Well, I'm a six..

Nigel: Which is the new fourteen. 

- Devil Wears Prada

... But still, the consumer (me, for now) does NOT want to see a thin model posing as a thicker woman.  I mean, on one website, I actually saw a "Plus Sized Model" (I say that very loosely) with a thigh-gap!! A FREAKIN' THIGH-GAP!!! You know what I'm talking about, when a woman stands with her knees together & there's a space between her thighs? Some are really small & some are longer like the picture below... but a "Plus Sized" model should NEVER have a thigh gap.... Seriously!
 (See Below)

      There's nothing wrong w/the skinny model (above)-- but everyone has their place in this world... That would be like me posing for a maternity magazine & not actually being pregnant... but you have me modeling clothes for pregnant women...SMH...It's not realistic for us to see clothes that are "made for us" on thin models.  The women above are all beautiful, in my eyes! No, they're not a size 2, 4, or 6, but they're working these swimsuits, aren't they?! And reality is, most of these women (above) are still thinner or shapelier than a lot of us, anyway! Then, for advertisements that use photoshop, they clean up the things that most of us are gonna see, when we try on the swimsuit... And speaking of photoshop, if they have thin models wearing "Plus sized fashions, can't they photoshop them to look bigger??? I'm trying to be real, here.

Favorite Breaking News:  Welp, It's a wrap for Apollo Nida

   A few years ago, I might have been a little sad to see Apollo Nida go back to Prison, and although I'm not particularly happy when people go to prison, we all know he deserves it.  Apparently, Apollo had been forging checks and defrauding people's retirement monies. It's disgusting that with as much "wealth" as he tried to claim he had, that so much of it was stolen. And I don't care who you are, but I think you're an idiot if you don't think Phaedra knew about it... That's probably why she salsa-ed her way all the to Mexico right before he went away.  She's not trying to be close to him, whatsoever.  It's a shame when someone as attractive and charming (at times) as Apollo can be a total waste of a good body!  I actually used to have a crush on him, until he started opening his big mouth. I'm pretty sure he'll have a hard time for singin' like a canary.   He gave up information, in order for a lighter sentence (yes, 8yrs is light compared to the 30 he was looking at)... They don't like snitches... Guess we'll see him in 8yrs... 

Favorite Video :  Proof That The Ice Cream Truck Does Bring Joy!

   Seriously... I cannot watch this just once!  This little video of the guy dancing to the Ice Cream Truck Music has become an anthem in my office & on my social media pages! It's proof that the Ice Cream Truck does bring joy! lol

Favorite Artist:  Tynisha Keli 

    If Britney Spears could really sing, she'd  probably sound like Tynisha Keli... I've never denied actually being a Britney fan, but as a lover of music, I've always said there are "Singers" and there are "Performers" And there are both...Musicians can be one or the other, but not all musicians can be both.  This New Bedford, Massachuesetts native has really entertained me this week! Enjoy!

Favorite Book:    Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert

    I own this movie, and finally got around to reading the book.  Both were really great! I enjoyed walking with Elizabeth Gilbert through her journey to find the balance between devotion & pleasure.  I wish it would say how things ended with her and her final love, but it doesn't... It just kind of leaves off on a fairytale-like thought.  Although my personal beliefs don't align with her beliefs 100% I appreciate that she was able to find some kind of solace and centering in her life.  I always enjoy autobiographical books about culture, passion, and journeys through life.  It  has 109 chapters, but it's generally a quick read!

  Well, enjoy the rest of your weekend! Let me know what books you're reading, what you're doing this summer & what new things fascinate you in the comments below or on my Facebook page!